Mawaage

Because I have to…

As most of you probably know, Prop 8 and DOMA were struck down by the US Supreme Court yesterday. While many of my LGB (and some T) comrades are rejoicing, I can’t help but look at my current situation and think, “meh.” That’s right, another historic victory by the mainstream LGB(T) movement does absolutely nothing to help my life. Congratulations.

Yep, I’m one of the bajillion folks who live in one of what the gay rights activists call “inequality states.” So even if I up and head over to Massachusetts to get “legally married,” once I get back here, no one cares. But wait, can’t I just change my gender marker on my drivers license and get hetero-married? Oh wait, that might not work either because someone can always contest the marriage saying I’m not “really” a man/guy/whatever the M signifies. So after all that paperwork, it would still be a crap shoot.

Besides, marriage is stupid. It’s ridiculous that we need to rely on a quasi-religious institution run by old white dudes to grant legitimacy to our relationships. Oh yeah, and that relationship can only be with one other person, of course. I still think that LGBTQ folks and the Mormons should team up and push for gender-blind AND poly marriage. That would be ahmazing!

Of course, just because I think it’s stupid, doesn’t mean I don’t want to option to potentially exercise those 1001+ rights as long as the marriage industrial complex exists (especially if I have kids and need more legal protections for my family). So I guess we’ll see what happens from here as the court stuff progresses, all the talking heads tell us how to interpret the decision, and see how many states cave in to granting equal marriage because now that the feds recognize it, it’s got to be a paperwork nightmare to keep all this “straight.”