Putting the “amour” in Metamour

Last week, my sweetie (going to use “co” pronouns in my blog from now on) came to visit me in community! There were several things I was hoping to get out of the visit:

• to have co see the farm and what it’s like for me to live here
• to have co spend more time with my long-term partner
• to have co meet my friends and feel like a part of my community
• to have lots of sex =;-)

I can say with confidence that all of these goals were met, PLUS the visit exceeded my expectations in several ways. First of all, co liked the farm and liked my friends and fit in really well in the community. It’s totally valid that my sweetie doesn’t see living here as a thing that would work for cos career plans, but it’s great that co is excited to visit me while I’m living here.

Secondly, co got along SUPER well with my long-term partner. In the first couple days, they both got more comfortable being around each other and talking to each other and cuddling me together. Eventually, our triple cuddles got closer and closer and in a really fun cargo net adventure, my sweetie and my long-term partner both also cuddled and kissed each other. I obviously don’t see it as a requirement that my partners have a physical relationship with each other (or even a close friendship for that matter), but it had crossed my mind as a possibility. I wasn’t confident that they would necessarily click in a dating way since they have pretty different personalities/interests, but I was pretty sure that they would have good sex and/or kink chemistry if they wanted to explore that. It ended up being SUPER hot and I’m totally glad it happened. We even ended up tying my sweetie up to the net and both me and my long-term partner had tons of fun teasing co hehehe…

Cuddling/making out was it for that night. However, the next night, I started out being co-massaged by the two of them and it turned into the first threesome for all of us! Now we’re all pretty keen on group sex. Also, we are having a lot of fun taking pics/videos of each other in various combinations and getting off on seeing our people having fun with other people. I’m so glad we’re all perverts =;-P

Still my favorite Kimchi comic =:-D

It’s been kinda hard for me to settle back down into my “regular life” after having such an amazing vacation-type week. It was just so great to have both of my people in the same place and everything just felt so right to me. I had a mild bout of post-visit depression after my sweetie left; not having co across the hallway, not seeing cos toothbrush in the bathroom, etc. It was like coming down from a total high.

Also, as excited as I was about new developments, I think I was also a little worried about how all of our relationships may or may not change in light of new dynamics. Specifically, I am really excited about my sweetie having a deeper relationship with both me and my long-term partner, but I also want to make sure I still have a separate relationship with each person that is special and unique. I think I feel more this way in regards to my sweetie because our relationship is still so relatively new and I haven’t had these feelings surrounding my long-term partner because we’ve been together so long and I don’t really see anything as a potential threat. However, I know that these worried thoughts are irrational and I have a lot of confidence about the stability of both of my relationships, so I think I was just mostly bummed about missing my sweetie after co left.

Of course, in the past couple days, communication and intensity of feelings between me and my sweetie have been consistent with our usual, so my slightly worried feelings were happily unfounded. PLUS my long-term partner has been extra into me lately, so I think it’s all working out and I’m feeling really good about our new situation. Oh btw, I had about 20 orgasms in a week, which is certainly a record for me and possibly a world record =;-)

In conclusion, I’m the luckiest boi in the world and I feel super privileged to have two such awesome people in my life!